I
find it a lousy deal. There's no advantage in getting older. I'm 74
now. You don't get smarter, you don't get wiser, you don't get more
mellow, you don't get more kindly. Nothing good happens. Your back hurts
more. You get more indigestion. Your eyesight isn't as good. You need a
hearing aid. It's a bad business getting older, and I would advise you
not to do it."
Immortal
words spoken by an immortal man: Woody Allen said this at last year's
Cannes Festival, and while anyone getting older can surely sympathize,
this provides great insight for anyone with aging parents. Many people
get frustrated with their aging parents, whether because they feel
smothered by the need to help them, or worried that they can't. Really,
though, there's little reason to worry. Caring for aging parents might
seem like a daunting task, but truthfully, it doesn't have to be. You
and your parent or parents just need to find the right balance. At
senior helpers of toms river nj and brick nj we help our elderly clients
to embrace the challenge of aging by
maintaing the quality of life they desire.
maintaing the quality of life they desire.
One
of the best ways you can help aging parents is by making sure they know
they have nothing to be embarrassed about. Many people, as they get
older, experience the pains of aging, which are often unpleasant and
necessitate a lot of help. Things that are simple for you--climbing
stairs, getting in and out of the bathtub, driving a car--may no longer
be quite as easy for them. They shouldn't be ashamed of this--if you
need to help them get upstairs or drive them around, joke about how they
would do the same for you, then remind them that they did.
Another
great way to care for your aging parents is by helping them stay
healthy. This may be more difficult than it sounds--as the body ages the
immune system ages along with it, no longer working as well as it once
did. But that doesn't mean your parents should neglect their health.
Make sure they remember to eat healthily; take them to their general
physician to get an idea of what kind of diet they should be
maintaining, and if they should take vitamins. Most likely the doctor
will confirm this--older people tend to want to eat less, which means
they'll need to get certain nutrients elsewhere. Your aging parents
might consider having blood work done to see if there are particular
vitamins they should be taking.
Your
parents' aging doesn't have to take a toll on their or your lives. As
long as you're there for them while offering encouragement when they
want to do things for themselves, everyone's lifestyle will be able to
remain largely the same. Just keep in mind that they will need your help
from time to time--be there, just as they were there for you as you
grew up.
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